Sometimes we limit our life’s choices to two paths or only two answers; one that may feel “right” and the other may feel “wrong.” Which job do I take? Which school do I go to?

We start to lend pros and cons to each side and may find ourselves favoring one thing over the other. The risk in categorizing each one as good or bad is that if you don’t take the path you wanted, you automatically fall into the path that feels more disappointing.

Reality is that living in the grey gives many more options, ones that you don’t even realize you may be sitting in. There is so much more possibility when you do not limit yourself.

When I personally think about the “greys” I find an inherent feeling of freedom, of having more choices. The flip side to that, is that I have more choices. The feeling is simultaneously exhilarating and anxiety provoking. Yet, as I settle more comfortably in living a life in the “grey,” I know now that I cannot live any other way.

Currently, I am facing my own challenge of finding a career path. I battle with different locations, job types, salaries, and lifestyles. As I struggle to narrow down what fits me best, I have to remind myself of the unknown hidden amongst the greys.  I can be sure of nothing until I make tangible steps towards actualizing my dream. I can plan, organize, and think my way around any scenario, but the truth is—  I won’t know until I live it.

The uncertainty that comes along with these decisions is enough to make you want to never make a decision again. I am finding that I have to reach to the deepest levels of where my courage lies in order to keep moving forward. I feel my fear, heavy and thick, trying to weigh me down into giving up. Fighting through that is not easy. It tempts me to fall back on black and white thinking, which is appealing with the idea of sureness.

But, my reality remains grey. That may sound bleak and uncomfortable, but I prefer to think of it as the silver sky after a storm, or the warmth of a soft grey shirt. Good or bad, I embrace it.