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[there’s a fine line between wallowing just enough to feel your feelings and just letting yourself go enough where it hurts more than helps. this is for you to find out. you’ll know when you cross the line, but maybe not until after the fact. i wrote this post last weekend when i needed a breath of fresh air and a change of scenery to take me out lethargy and what turned into feelings of self-pity. i got dressed, took myself out to a dinner on a saturday night, and took a long walk. just the act of deciding on this and stepping outside immediately helped me refocus and regain the empowerment i knew i was capable of. and so this more than anything… is advice to myself. i hope that you too can take something from it.]:

get UP. get out. move. take a walk to anywhere.
go to the movies. anywhere that’s not your couch.
stop sinking in. pull those covers off.
remote down.
breathe in the fresh air instead of rushing through it.

get off your computer. text later.
if you’re hiding and the joy you know is fading..
change your routine.
grab coffee and enjoy every sip.
finish a book. people watch. say hi to a stranger.
cook dinner. a new recipe. grocery shop (first).
pick your fruit thoughtfully.

bake. do your laundry. watch the clothes as they spin,
they clean and revive in cycles just as you do.

pay your bills. clean.
call a friend you’ve meaning to catch up with.
write. exercise. even if it’s for 10 minutes.
go to the bookstore. sit in aisles as your browse.
listen to (new) music. dance.
stretch. just move. it’s not distraction, it’s not forgetting,
it’s living and breathing and moving on.
and on that note- pay attention to your breathing. too often, we are holding our breath.

it will be the hardest thing in the moment to get up- but
say yes.
once you do, you’ll be happy you did.
most of all:
don’t wait on anyone to “rescue you,” rescue yourself.

 

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