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1. Are you male or female? Female

2. Are you black or white? White

3. Are you a Democrat or a Republican? Neither

4. Are you single or married? Single

5. Are you a college graduate? Yes or No

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All too often our identities are boiled down to a simple this or that statement. A statement that rarely captures who we truly are.

This or that thinking limits our ability to know ourselves and others. To know the really important stuff…what we/others believe, what we/others stand for, what we/others treasure, what makes us/others laugh, what makes us/others fume…the list goes on.

Anyone who formed an impression of who I am based on my answers to the five questions listed above probably does not think much of me. But how could you think much of me? The this or that does not really allow you into my life.

Who I really am is quite complex and difficult to explain. I am a lot of things. I have strong beliefs that guide my life. I truly treasure the relationships that I have. I make mistakes.

Today’s post is short and sweet. I encourage you to challenge your this or that thinking. Don’t miss out on discovering who you and others are…

 

 

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