{"id":2349,"date":"2012-10-26T08:44:13","date_gmt":"2012-10-26T13:44:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/collectiveinquiry.com\/?p=2349"},"modified":"2012-10-26T08:44:13","modified_gmt":"2012-10-26T13:44:13","slug":"let-go-of-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/collectiveinquiry.com\/?p=2349","title":{"rendered":"Let go of expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Over the past few years I have changed my language to better reflect my beliefs. In all that I&#8217;ve accomplished in my life, I have never been one to set goals. It became a challenge for me because in one of the classes that I teach, I required students to come up with 3-4 goals to work on through the course of the semester. I was never really comfortable with this since I was never really one to set goals myself. I do have different directions that I have intended to go in life, but never a full expectation of arriving at some end (there&#8217;s always more to go). So, the most important part for me was having fun along the way.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_2351\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/collectiveinquiry.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/10\/untitled.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-2351\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-2351\" src=\"https:\/\/collectiveinquiry.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/10\/untitled-300x225.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/collectiveinquiry.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/10\/untitled-300x225.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/collectiveinquiry.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/10\/untitled.jpeg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-2351\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image by <a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/michaellamartin\/5956026509\/\">MichaelLaMartin<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/zenhabits.net\/fun\/\">Zenhabits.net<\/a> recently posted a challenge in the way we think about goals:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">&#8220;While some people like to focus on being disciplined and achieving goals and sticking to their plans, I find this to be meaningless. What\u2019s the point? You\u2019ll fail about a third to half the time, and then feel like a failure for not being disciplined or sticking to a plan or goal.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">&#8220;In contrast, if you do the exact same thing, but let go of the expectation you\u2019ve set for yourself and just have fun doing it, it\u2019s a complete success.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I know that in my life, I love to have fun. It takes the pressure off and makes growing more enjoyable and definitely less stressful.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Over the past few years I have changed my language to better reflect my beliefs. In all that I&#8217;ve accomplished in my life, I have never been one to set goals. 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