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<\/a>my voice this week. Only for a minute…but it happened. I felt so helpless and trapped and believed that my only resort was to raise my voice and hurl out words that I knew would be hurtful. I had a really hard time after I did it and broke down for a minute. I was hurting because I knew that I had hurt someone as a result of my helpless\/scared\/trapped feelings.<\/p>\nWhew…that was a hard one to admit. I have spent the last few days thinking about that moment…wondering what it was that made me react the way that I did.<\/p>\n
I think that I have figured it out. I was not in a place where I could hear what the other person was saying to me. This happened after a very long day at school and work. I was mentally and physically exhausted. I also had the expectation that I was at the point in my day where I could let my guard down and think about absolutely nothing.<\/p>\n
Having let me guard down, I was not in a place to have a difficult (potentially deep) conversation. Instead of engaging and talking…I became defensive and scared. I really think that it was the fear talking when I raised my voice and walked out of the room.<\/p>\n
We all do this in some way or another. We become so paralyzed by fear that we say or do something that could potentially be damaging.<\/p>\n
I think what is important is that we own up to it….whether it be immediately after or a little down the road. So many of the people who I know and who I work with struggle with this. It is difficult to admit that we were in the wrong. But think about this for a minute…how much does it mean when someone does it for you?<\/p>\n
Our relationships are so precious. The people who we are in relationship with are the people who support us on a daily basis and through the big stuff…like a busy semester in grad school or the pursuit of a life passion.<\/p>\n
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