I work a lot with couples. I’m guessing this has to do with being a marriage and family therapist! Often in the course of therapy with a couple, I have heard someone say that their primary love language is (fill in the blank) (referring to Chapman’s 1995 book, The five love languages: How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate). The statement is then Read more…
Several years ago I was working on a grant to help ease the transition for adolescents to go from a residential treatment center for mental health back into school. This transition is typically difficult due to changes in medication or people asking where they were. To help part of the transition, I wanted to be able to have marriage and Read more…
Unfortunately, relationships do not come with a manual. They are really hard to figure out sometimes! However, the good news is that there are researchers who are invested in trying to figure out what works and what doesn’t work. One of these researchers is John Gottman. According to John Gottman, there is a magic ratio that sets successful couples apart Read more…
Writing posts for Collective Inquiry is such an interesting experience for me. Sometimes I struggle to think of what I will write for the week, sometimes I wake up inspired and eager to write (like Monday morning), sometimes I write a post and don’t think much about it afterward, and then sometimes I write a post and it remains lingering Read more…
Change doesn’t happen because of you, it happens through you. In the helping profession, it can be easy to get swept in the idea that who you want to change is the people you work with. Because you love what you do, you work tirelessly; giving time and emotion. Unfortunately, self-care, reflection, and your own growth can take a back Read more…
