Recently I read a blog post by Derek Sivers which touches on a topic that I run into quite a bit in working with clients and in my own life. It is believing that there are only two choices available when faced with a decision. I have found it dangerous to see decisions this way because generally, neither option is pleasant. Read more…
I get asked a lot by my friends, students interested in becoming a therapist, and even people I just met how I keep my work as a therapist separate from my home life. They wonder how I can hear so many problems and pain all day and not have it affect me afterward. Well, first of all, not all of Read more…
Yesterday was a hard day. I woke up with this impending sense of doom. A doom that I can best describe to you as a heavy black cloud that I knew would be following me around all day. I did my best to outrun this cloud. I really did. Unfortunately, I fell down a few times and got caught in Read more…
Ok. Let’s set the record straight: I’m not perfect. At times it feels like others hold me to a higher standard because I am a therapist. It’s as if since I am a therapist, I should no longer be subject to weaknesses–that I should know better. Yes, there was a time that I did hold myself to a higher standard Read more…
Shame is an unbelievably powerful force. It can cause us to avoid situations and people. It is a powerful, demanding, and terrifying master. It can also disguise itself so that it’s bearer doesn’t recognize it. So often it is confused with guilt or appears to be pride. Maybe what causes our shame is a life-long repeated event, maybe it was a Read more…
