i went to the gym for the first time in a long time last week and a day later felt incredible soreness in muscles i didn’t know existed. why am i sharing this with you, you ask? it’s because it was a deep (and painful) way to remember that even change that is good for you can hurt. let me Read more…
As a therapist (and as a human), I am often eager to jump in and get started on making change. After some time, I realized that my enthusiasm doesn’t always match the person who seeking guidance. There could be many reasons for this, one among them is that everyone comes in at a different point of the ‘stages of change.’ The stages Read more…
There have been many conversations on this blog about changing selves and growth. Many factors contribute to change: environment, people, travel, pain, and emotions in general. But the focus has largely centered on the individual self and not as much on how change affects relationships as a result. I’m very aware of my own fluid change and shifting identity and Read more…
“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives. ” Thoreau When Read more…
I can remember this day, eleven years ago, well. As a freshman in high school, that morning was filled with, “what should I wear, did he just look at me as I walked by, why in the world does this class have to be so far away from my locker.” Mundane, albeit perfectly normal, 14 year-old thoughts. As I made Read more…
